Authenticity Is Underrated
I've thought a lot more about what it means to be a mom.
It sucks that so many people say that you have to give up your life to have a child. That nothing is ever the same.
While I agree with the latter part of that sentence, I don't understand the former. Why do you have to "give up your life" to have a child? Why can't that child or those children come and be a part of what you've got going on?
Today I was listening to a podcast about how to get things done and the speaker said something to the effect of people use their children as an excuse to get out of things that feel very challenging instead of confronting that challenge.
I think that's absolutely true.
Since it's easy to stay in our little corner and do the things we always do because we know what to expect, many of us - when faced with adversity - will say we can't deal with it because, ya know, the kids.
Man I sure hope I don't become one of those people. It's highly likely I could. I resist things that are uncomfortable and make excuses when something is really hard to do. But somehow I find that behavior repulsive. Ohhhhh, the hypocrisy.
And when your kids grow up and see you being a hypocrite, are they gonna call you out on it?
So there we are full circle. Either you give up your life and become this person that you don't really wanna be because society has told you that's what's normal and your kids call you out on your bullshit. Or you find a way to incorporate them into your life and try to be as authentic as possible.
xo Jenea
- Everything's always okay in the end; and if it's not okay, then it's not the end.
It sucks that so many people say that you have to give up your life to have a child. That nothing is ever the same.
While I agree with the latter part of that sentence, I don't understand the former. Why do you have to "give up your life" to have a child? Why can't that child or those children come and be a part of what you've got going on?
Today I was listening to a podcast about how to get things done and the speaker said something to the effect of people use their children as an excuse to get out of things that feel very challenging instead of confronting that challenge.
I think that's absolutely true.
Since it's easy to stay in our little corner and do the things we always do because we know what to expect, many of us - when faced with adversity - will say we can't deal with it because, ya know, the kids.
Man I sure hope I don't become one of those people. It's highly likely I could. I resist things that are uncomfortable and make excuses when something is really hard to do. But somehow I find that behavior repulsive. Ohhhhh, the hypocrisy.
And when your kids grow up and see you being a hypocrite, are they gonna call you out on it?
So there we are full circle. Either you give up your life and become this person that you don't really wanna be because society has told you that's what's normal and your kids call you out on your bullshit. Or you find a way to incorporate them into your life and try to be as authentic as possible.
xo Jenea
- Everything's always okay in the end; and if it's not okay, then it's not the end.
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