Minimalist First-Time Mommy: Is it possible?
I've found something quite irritating recently and I'm not entirely sure why.
Must-have lists for new mommies.
I'm not a planner. In fact, if there's one thing my husband would most definitely say he dislikes about me is that I don't plan.
I'm not particularly proud of this fact. I don't carry some sort of badge of honor by winging things most the time.
Instead, I find myself making excuses for why I couldn't, shouldn't, wouldn't plan.
"Spontaneity kills expectations. Expectations kill happiness." That's my quote. You can use it if it resonates.
In all fairness, I really don't like planning because I'm a perfectionist, and I tend to go round and round at the number of options I generally have if I do try to plan something.
But with the onset of a new human entering our lives, it goes without saying that some sort of planning needs to take place.
I have to step out of my insulated bubble of self-loathing and start thinking about the baby that will be joining us in 183 days.
But every time I read one of the "must-have" lists I get very, very anxious - and quite a bit annoyed.
Why are there so many things you have to have? Did women back in the day really need all this stuff?
The way these articles are written, I'm never sure if they are being genuine or trying to make affiliate commission.
I often feel like everyone is preying on the vulnerability of first-time moms. We're all freaking terrified of not getting it right so of course we'll buy that $100 pacifier that also monitors the baby's mouth for any infections.
Do I need a changing station, per se, or will I regret choosing my bed as a place for the baby to wee and poo all over?
Do I need a carrycot, car seat, and pram seat? How the heck am I supposed to fit all these things in our tiny hatchback?
Why do I need a manual pump and an electric one?
How many different beds does my baby really need? Does it stay close to me, or should it learn to sleep far away from the beginning? Bassinets and cribs aren't cheap. Do I really need both?!
I'm trying as much as I can to live a minimalist lifestyle. I'm also trying to buy second hand where I can.
We bought an incredible pram for $400. It's Stokke (that I've been stalking for years and years) that came with a crap ton of bells and whistles. It was all originally purchased for over $2000. I'd say that's a pretty awesome deal, and nothing got thrown in a landfill.
Is it possible to be a minimalist, first-time mommy without giving into all the fear mongering and temptations?
Welp, that remains to be seen.
xo Jenea
- Everything is always okay in the end; and if it's not okay, then it's not the end.
Must-have lists for new mommies.
I'm not a planner. In fact, if there's one thing my husband would most definitely say he dislikes about me is that I don't plan.
I'm not particularly proud of this fact. I don't carry some sort of badge of honor by winging things most the time.
Instead, I find myself making excuses for why I couldn't, shouldn't, wouldn't plan.
"Spontaneity kills expectations. Expectations kill happiness." That's my quote. You can use it if it resonates.
In all fairness, I really don't like planning because I'm a perfectionist, and I tend to go round and round at the number of options I generally have if I do try to plan something.
But with the onset of a new human entering our lives, it goes without saying that some sort of planning needs to take place.
I have to step out of my insulated bubble of self-loathing and start thinking about the baby that will be joining us in 183 days.
But every time I read one of the "must-have" lists I get very, very anxious - and quite a bit annoyed.
Why are there so many things you have to have? Did women back in the day really need all this stuff?
The way these articles are written, I'm never sure if they are being genuine or trying to make affiliate commission.
I often feel like everyone is preying on the vulnerability of first-time moms. We're all freaking terrified of not getting it right so of course we'll buy that $100 pacifier that also monitors the baby's mouth for any infections.
Do I need a changing station, per se, or will I regret choosing my bed as a place for the baby to wee and poo all over?
Do I need a carrycot, car seat, and pram seat? How the heck am I supposed to fit all these things in our tiny hatchback?
Why do I need a manual pump and an electric one?
How many different beds does my baby really need? Does it stay close to me, or should it learn to sleep far away from the beginning? Bassinets and cribs aren't cheap. Do I really need both?!
I'm trying as much as I can to live a minimalist lifestyle. I'm also trying to buy second hand where I can.
We bought an incredible pram for $400. It's Stokke (that I've been stalking for years and years) that came with a crap ton of bells and whistles. It was all originally purchased for over $2000. I'd say that's a pretty awesome deal, and nothing got thrown in a landfill.
Is it possible to be a minimalist, first-time mommy without giving into all the fear mongering and temptations?
Welp, that remains to be seen.
xo Jenea
- Everything is always okay in the end; and if it's not okay, then it's not the end.
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